e-mail
This morning our world changed a little, I opened a very nice and warming email from a woman who may have adopted a sibling of one of our children. To protect this person’s identity and my children – I will not say which child or what city the adoption took place in.
This person learned through our local adoption coordinator that the birth mother’s last name matched our son’s birth mother’s last name. We are currently exchanging information to determine if this is in fact the same birth mother or not.
I knew with my daughter’s adoption that her half brother was placed in the children’s home shortly after our adoption of her. It broke my heart to not be able to return (financially and without the support of my now ex-husband). I often wonder about that little boy and hope to be able to one day have them meet and know each other. If I had my “way” – he would of joined our family and I wouldn’t have to wonder about him and if he is okay and if he knows of Rebecca. Adoptions were happening with various countries – so I’m not sure how difficult searching would be when you are talking about international borders.
Have you ever wondered why Baby Houses can’t notify adoptive families of a sibling that enters the children’s home or baby house if a family is open to that? I think most adoptive families are open to keeping sibling groups together if at all possible.
On the flip side – we are thrilled of this possibility for our son and hope to keep contact if it is in fact true – so that they can determine if they’d like to establish a relationship when they are older. We are very pleased that someone took the leap of faith to email and inquire if we’d be interested in seeing if it is true. We’re not certain until we exchange information – but the initial information looks very promising.
Again, I am happy that we belong to our children’s birth city groups and this is another reason that I strongly believe that regional groups are very beneficial. If you haven’t already you should consider checking if your child(ren)’s birth city has a local Yahoo group that families that have adopted and join. If you don’t find one, consider starting one to keep the families connected.
http://kazakhadoptivefamilies.com/groups.html
Page down till you get to KAZAKHSTAN CITY YAHOO GROUPS
Keep your fingers crossed – hopefully it is a connection for our children and that it will turn out to be a positive experience for all involved!
