You Will Not Regret it

March 30th, 2012

1383253_girlI know this will seem foreign to many of you but I want to focus on the premise that 'no news is good news' in regard to Kazakhstan adoption. As frustrating as the wait can be, no major information has been released involving issues of any kind. This is actually a plus at this point of the process because a lot of the legal stuff occurs behind closed doors and is only made public when an agreement has been fully reached and implemented OR an unresolved issue remains. Kazakhstan appears to be in neither of these 'boats,' if you will. I do know that the Marriage and Family Act was put into place in Kazakhstan in January of 2011. This opened adoption under… [more]

How to Talk to Young Children about Adoption – Part 4

January 30th, 2007
Categories: Adoption Education

Part 3 http://kazakhstan.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/how-to-talk-to-young-children-about-adop-3 Part 4 Shared with permission I did NOT attempt to talk him out of his feelings, but listened and empathized. In this way, I knew that he would get the feelings on the outside so that they would no longer have the power to hurt him and he could begin to change them himself. No one appreciates or feels understood when they share their feelings with someone who dismisses them, doesn't accept them, as is, and fails to acknowledge them. Neither do others feel understood when another says "I understand exactly how you feel." Listening in a way that says "I am trying to figure out how you are feeling-- correct me if I guess wrong" feel understood, accepted and cared about. This is important because all too often, adoptive parents… [more]

How to Talk to Young Children about Adoption – Part 3

January 29th, 2007
Categories: Adoption Education

Part 1 http://kazakhstan.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/how-to-talk-to-young-children-about-adop Part 2 http://kazakhstan.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/how-to-talk-to-young-children-about-adop-2 Part III.... Shared with permission If parents are going to get beyond the facade of "I don't EVER think about adoption and I don't have ANY questions" they are going to have to learn to tune-in to their child's round-about way of sending clues and also his behavioral clues that will signal that he is thinking about adoption and how it pertains to him. For example, a child who sobs and sobs over a kitten who is spending her first night away from Momma Cat may really be just sad for the kitten, but is more likely to be thinking a bit about how it might have been for her to have spent her first night away from her birth mother. A child whose behavior changes quite suddenly and is… [more]

How to Talk to Young Children about Adoption – Part 2

January 29th, 2007
Categories: Adoption Education

Part 1 http://kazakhstan.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/how-to-talk-to-young-children-about-adop Part 2 - shared with permission Let's look now at where your child is likely to be at age six to seven. At about this age, a child's cognitive ability will take him beyond the concrete, to think beyond the information and opinions that his parents have shared with him regarding how they feel about adoption and having brought him into their family. He is having more and more contact with the outside world and is becoming increasingly aware of the negative misconceptions our society has about adoption, racism, and the intrusiveness of strangers with adoptive families, as well as his parent's pride in having adopted him into the family. The six or seven year old continues to be interested in what his parents have to say, but is… [more]

How to Talk to Young Children about Adoption

January 28th, 2007
Categories: Adoption Education

If you are considering going to the workshop http://kazakhstan.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/jane-brown-adoption-playshops-and-parent - you may wish to read some of Jane Brown's work.... Shared with Permission - Part I How to Talk to Young Children about Adoption by Jane Brown, M.S.W. Adoption Educator, Adoptive Parent SETTING THE STAGE: HELPING CHILDREN LEARN TO EXPRESS FEELINGS SO THAT THEY CAN TALK ABOUT ADOPTION QUESTION: Frequently I ask my preschool child about his adoption, but he never seems to have any questions or have the need to talk about his personal history. Is this all right or should I be doing more? ANSWER: In order to help our children discuss their questions, thoughts, and feelings about having been adopted into the family, it is important that we familiarize ourselves with how, developmentally, children understand adoption and that we build effective… [more]

Jane Brown Adoption Playshops and parent/educator seminar

January 26th, 2007
Categories: Adoption Education

Shared with permission.... Many of you are aware of the widely renowned adoption professional, Jane Brown. She travels the world talking with adoptive parents and children. Jane is both an adoption social worker/educator and an adoptive & foster mother of nine children, some of whom are now grown. She lives and works in Arizona. She serves on the editorial board of Adoptive Families Magazine and writes a regular parenting column for the publication. She is the creator of Adoption Playshops which is a series of workshops for adopted children age five+, their non-adopted siblings, and adoptive parents in which children are helped through playful, multi sensory activities to explore growing up in an adoptive family and racial identity, plus develop skills for dealing with societal attitudes and beliefs about adoption and includes… [more]